I remember trying not to stare the night that I first met you

You had me mesmerized
And three weeks later, in the front porch light
Taking 45 minutes to kiss goodnight
I hadn't told you yet, but I thought I loved you then

And now you're my whole life, now you're my whole world
I just can't believe the way I feel about you, girl
Like a river meets the sea, stronger than it's ever been
We've come so far since that day
And I thought I loved you then

I remember taking you back to right where I first met you
You were so surprised
There were people around, but I didn't care
I got down on one knee right there
And once again, I thought I loved you then

And now you're my whole life, now you're my whole world
I just can't believe the way I feel about you, girl
Like a river meets the sea, stronger than it's ever been
We've come so far since that day
And I thought I loved you then

I can just see you with a baby on the way
I can just see you when your hair is turning grey
What I can't see is how I'm ever going to love you more
But I've said that before

And now you're my whole life, now you're my whole world
I just can't believe the way I feel about you, girl
We'll look back someday, at this moment that we're in
And I'll look at you and say, and I thought I loved you then
And I thought I loved you then

About This Song

"Then" is a tender exploration of love's evolution from initial infatuation to deep, mature commitment, capturing the profound difference between thinking you love someone and truly understanding what love means. The song follows a relationship's progression from nervous first encounters and tentative courtship rituals to the security of marriage and family, with the narrator repeatedly reflecting on how shallow his earlier feelings seem compared to his current devotion. Paisley employs the metaphor of a river meeting the sea to illustrate how love grows stronger and more expansive over time, rather than diminishing through familiarity. The track's gentle acoustic guitar foundation and understated production allow the intimate storytelling to take center stage, creating an almost conversational feel that mirrors the personal nature of the reflection. What makes the song particularly resonant is its honest acknowledgment that love isn't static-that what feels overwhelming at the beginning pales in comparison to the depth possible through shared experiences, commitment, and time. The recurring refrain "I thought I loved you then" becomes increasingly poignant as listeners realize how each life milestone deepens the narrator's understanding of his own capacity for love. This theme of emotional maturity and growth struck a chord with audiences who recognized their own relationships' evolution, making it a popular choice for weddings and anniversaries. The song ultimately celebrates not just romantic love, but the beautiful surprise of discovering that our hearts can expand far beyond what we initially thought possible.

Comments (21)

  • Anonymous
    This song means so much to me! (: My Bf said it was his song to me! :) He sings this song to me everynight before we fall asleep on the phone and I love this song because the words are so deep and true! (: I love my Baby Roel :)
  • R. Hunt
    I was trying to figure out how to write a song for the one true love of my life with the same meaning, and Brad couldn't have done a better job at it. Very deep and true. Thanks, Brad.
  • Anonymous
    My husband gave me this song to listen to, and as soon as I heard it, I understood why. We have been together for 4 years now, and each day is as the first time we met. One soulmate recognising another. He's my whole life, and I am his. WOW!!!
  • Anonymous
    my husband and i have been married thirteen years and this song sums up all the feelings i have for him!! i jus fell in love al over again !!not a day goes by i dont here this song and i think to my self how i love my best friend so very much.. thank you brad for this beautiful song!! julie woods
  • Anonymous
    I just met a man last weekend and he told me this song reminded him of me.... I feel the same and I can't wait to see where this goes....
  • Anonymous
    This is the song I am going to play at my wedding for our first dance because I love this song so much.
  • Anonymous
    Today is our 35th wedding anniversary. I love this song. It just sums up everything about us. We only knew each other 3 months before we got married, but I knew even "then" he definitely was the one! Brad Paisley always touches my heart with his songs.
  • Anonymous
    i love this song so much but i'm sad to say idk if the one i'm with truly feels this way about me...i cry everytime i hear this song cuz i wish he did feel that way...
  • Anonymous
    i love this song. this song was the first song me and my bf danced to. everytime i hear this song it remindsme of that dance.
  • Anonymous
    This is me and my girlfriends song!
  • Anonymous
    I love this song. My fiance and I are playing it at our wedding. He is currently 10 1/2 hours away from me for college. He plays, and sings it every night for me before we go to bed.
  • Anonymous
    this song is so nice i love all the words in it this song almost made me cry and its the first time i resd it...thats how i feel about my bf i hope it stays like dat always
  • Anonymous
    wowowowow! i so love this song so so much. This is the song my jeffy(the man I wanna grow old with) dedicated to me. I am an avid fan of Brad Paisley.=)
  • Anonymous
    awwwwwwwwwwwwwwww my baby just said this is his song 2 me awwwwwwwwwwww this songs so0o sweet
  • Anonymous
    Our song is Amazed by Lonestar...it's the first song my husband & I danced to when we were dating. And then this song came out...WOW. It came on the radio last Friday night on our way home and my husband says it's our new song. That he thinks of me everytime it comes on and describes his feelings for me. After listening to it, my eyes were filled with tears. It's so beautiful. Great Job Brad!
  • Anonymous
    Amazing song. Typically not a country fan, but great lyrics and pure vocals.
  • Anonymous
    this song is so beautiful.. i love it so much, it is me an my baby Tysons song... he sent it to me in a text message then i went and looked at the lyrics and feel in love wit it! he said this was are song and HE LOVES ME! And i hope that never changes!!!
  • Anonymous
    this is my wedding song.... i love this song so much.. everytime i list to this song i cry.. waiting for my husband return from iraq... this one great song...we are so inlove with other...i cant wait to grow old with him.. and listing to this song then....
  • abigail.smith2013
    i love this song so much! it really means alot to me my fiance loves me and everytime we hear this song he makes me cry!!!!im lucky to have him and i cant wait till the day i can walk down to my future!!!!1
  • Steve Moors
    I really love this song'''''''''.
  • Steve Moors
    this song is so nice I love all the words in it this song.